Isolation, secrecy, preoccupation.
Habitual porn use can squander time,
money, and emotional intimacy.
10 Reasons to Learn Sex Addiction-Induced Trauma Model from Dr. Minwalla
I’m very excited that Dr. Omar Minwalla is coming to the Bay Area in September (9/24 – 9/27) to train sex addiction professionals how to work from the Sex Addiction-Induced Trauma Model. I believe this training will produce a shift in how I work with my clients. (Plus, I totally want to geek-out with my peers about finer points of skillful sex addiction treatment!)
My 10 Reasons to Learn the Sex Addiction-Induced (SAI) Trauma Model from Dr. Minwalla:
1. I had an extremely difficult partner case last year. My consultation with Dr. Minwalla produced a big shift in this client’s treatment and her resilience.
2. The SAI Trauma Model extends beyond “how to treat the partner.” I’d like to better understand how that all fits together clinically.
3. Dr. Minwalla’s work declared that partners’ reactions to discovery were symptoms of trauma. Why not learn directly from the man who pioneered this thinking?
4. Traditional sex-addiction treatment protocol sometimes bristles against my sensibilities and politics. I’d like to supplement my case conceptualization with other well-considered viewpoints.
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AB1775: Affected Client Speaks Out
Here’s an example of why AB1775 is a terrible and ill-conceived law. If you’re not worried about the erosion of client confidentiality, then you’re not paying attention.
To Whom It May Concern,
I am the client directly affected by AB1775. I’m terrified to write this letter, but hope maybe I can express the grave mistake and consequences of AB1775.
I was born in the early 1980s and hit my pre-teen years when the Internet was becoming a sensation. Before the internet, I discovered porn like most others at that time: through magazines hidden under my father’s bed and garbled cable-tv channels. For whatever reason—biological, environmental or both—I developed a compulsive need to view pornography as a means of soothing my unpleasant feelings.
Around 11 or 12 years old, when the new computer came home, it took almost no time for my brother and I to discover Internet chat rooms where people exchanged pornography. [Read more…]
Signs of Love Addiction
Are you a love or romance addict?
Take this quiz to determine whether your sexual and romantic behaviors involve the components of tolerance, escalation, and negative consequences we associate with “addiction.”
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- Have you ever tried to control how often you would see someone romantically?
- Do you ever get “high” from romance, fantasy or intrigue?
- Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when away from your lover or romantic partner?
- Do you believe that a romantic relationship will make your life bearable?
Speaking Engagement in San Francisco
Dear Bay Area Colleagues,
I’ll be giving a lecture at Fort Mason in San Francisco. It’s sponsored by The Meadows treatment center for addiction.
This talk is 7pm on the first Wednesday in November. That’s right—the night after the first Tuesday in November. (I’m only talking for an hour or so. You can be home in time for Daily Show and Colbert.)
Hope to see you there!
Stats on Internet Porn
Interesting infographic on internet pornography from OnlineMBA.com.
By the way, #2 is misleading. I think this statistic is reporting how many hits/second internet porn receives. The number of people viewing porn online at any given second is certainly greater than 28,258 … probably by a factor of 100.