Marriage & Family Therapist MFC 43846
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Men in their 20s and 30s are reporting “copulatory impotence,” which is the inability to maintain an erection with an in-person sexual partner. These men report they still objectively find their partner attractive, but need to fantasize porn-like scenarios to get or maintain an erection.
The abundance of Viagra and Cialis commercials portrays erectile dysfunction as a normal, common phenomenon. Not, however, for men under 40! It’s often the porn!
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Here’s a excellent article about the effects of betrayal from the New York Times. It’s a very elegant articulation of the depth and breadth of disorientation experienced by partners of sex addicts.
I’m very excited that Dr. Omar Minwalla is coming to the Bay Area in September (9/24 – 9/27) to train sex addiction professionals how to work from the Sex Addiction-Induced Trauma Model. I believe this training will produce a shift in how I work with my clients. (Plus, I totally want to geek-out with my peers about finer points of skillful sex addiction treatment!)
1. I had an extremely difficult partner case last year. My consultation with Dr. Minwalla produced a big shift in this client’s treatment and her resilience.
2. The SAI Trauma Model extends beyond “how to treat the partner.” I’d like to better understand how that all fits together clinically.
3. Dr. Minwalla’s work declared that partners’ reactions to discovery were symptoms of trauma. Why not learn directly from the man who pioneered this thinking?
4. Traditional sex-addiction treatment protocol sometimes bristles against my sensibilities and politics. I’d like to supplement my case conceptualization with other well-considered viewpoints.
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Dear Bay Area Colleagues,
I’ll be giving a lecture at Fort Mason in San Francisco. It’s sponsored by The Meadows treatment center for addiction.
This talk is 7pm on the first Wednesday in November. That’s right—the night after the first Tuesday in November. (I’m only talking for an hour or so. You can be home in time for Daily Show and Colbert.)
Hope to see you there!
Possible indicators of sexually compulsivity include: