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Home Love Addiction Signs of Love Addiction

JBAdmin October 29, 2012

Signs of Love Addiction

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Image Courtesy Amy Hawkins

Are you a love or romance addict?

Take this quiz to determine whether your sexual and romantic behaviors involve the components of tolerance, escalation, and negative consequences we associate with “addiction.”

 

    • Have you ever tried to control how often you would see someone romantically?
    • Do you ever get “high” from romance, fantasy or intrigue?
    • Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when away from your lover or romantic partner?
    • Do you believe that a romantic relationship will make your life bearable?

  • Are you unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that person is destructive to you?
  • Do you have difficulty being alone?
  • Do you feel that life would have little or no meaning without a love relationship?
  • Do you replace ended relationships immediately?
  • Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?
  • Does attention to your romantic relationships help you to cope with or escape from life’s problems?
  • Do you find yourself flirting with someone even if you do not mean to?
  • Do you ever find yourself in relationships you are unable to leave?
  • Do you feel that you don’t want anyone to know about your romantic activities?
  • Have you had sex with someone so that they will like you better or love you more?
  • Do you make promises to yourself concerning your romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow?
  • Do you believe that someone can “fix” you or “make it better”?
  • Do you feel that you’re not “really alive” unless you are with your romantic partner?
  • Have you ever threatened your financial stability, reputation, or standing in the community by pursuing a love relationship?
  • Do you believe that the problems in your love life result from continuing to remain with the “wrong” person?
  • Do you often feel an instant closeness and complete connection with people you just met?
  • Do you need to fall in love in order to feel like a “real man” or a “real woman”?
  • Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of romantic thoughts or feelings you are having about another person?
  • Have you ever wished you could stop or control your romantic activities for a given period of time?
  • Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your excessive relationship needs?
  • Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by romantic/relationship pursuits?

The Love Addiction Screening Tool (LAST) was created by Aaron Alan, LMFT, CSAT-S.  The LAST is adapted from Pia Mellody, Patrick Carnes, and SLAAʼs “40 Questions for Self Diagnosis.”

Filed Under: Love Addiction, Sex Addiction, Sex Addicts

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