Are you struggling to make sense of behaviors of your husband, wife, partner? Partners of sex- and love-addicts often report they sensed something was “off” before the addiction was exposed.
Possible indicators of sexually compulsivity include:
- Staying up late to surf the web or watch television
- Frequently isolating from spouses or partners, and not informing them of their whereabouts
- Acts controlling during sexual activity, or has frequent mood swings before or after sex
- Is demanding about sex, especially regarding time and place
- Gets angry if someone shows concern about a problem with pornography
- In public, seems preoccupied with everything around them
- Fails to account for increasing calls to unusual phone numbers
- Hides pornography at work or home
- Increasing dishonesty and defensiveness
- Lacks intimacy before, during and after sex, and offers little or no genuine intimacy in the relationship
- Does not want to socialize with others, especially peers who might intimidate them
- Has tried to switch to other forms of pornography to show a lack of dependency on one kind; concocts rules to cut down but doesn’t adhere to them
- Feels depressed
- Lacks close friends of the same sex
- Frequently uses sexual humor
- Always has a good reason for looking at pornography